What's Going On? Sista's We've Got To Do Better

Oh, what's going on

What's going on

Yeah, what's going on

Ah, what's going on

Marvin Gaye

Having sat down with my plate of barbeque ribs, I say  “what’s up my people?” to those seated at the table

Then I heard a voice respond: “I am NOT YOUR PEOPLE because you are white.”

Ohhhh! Really? Okay!!??

Within a blink of an eye, I played out a reaction in my mind.  It all seemed like it was in slow motion.

I gasped.  “WTF?”

I pulled back from the table, my body language saying, “WTF” is wrong with her.”

“Hmm,” I thought. “This is interesting.”  Truth be told, she had been looking at me funny all day. “She’s going through something,” I thought. “But F*** that. I still should just let her have it.”

The thoughts continued: “If I engage this heifer, the fun night will be over because...

Self Love Means Celebrating YOU!

“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.”

Eartha Kitt

Low self-esteem is common among women. It’s where we lack the will and desire to celebrate ourselves.

I have a few questions for you. Ready?

Do you compare yourself to others, leading to feelings of inadequacy?

Ever had the experience of accomplishing something amazing only to focus on all the things you did wrong?

Or spend months on a project, pouring your heart and soul into it only to be too embarrassed to let anyone see it?

All of these can be huge hurdles to overcome, even if you are a person who’s inherently motivated, talented and ambitious.

Soooo, are you ready to shift out of these patterns? Then let’s start with something basic. It embodies two simple words:

Celebrate Yourself!

The next time you...

Shine bright like a diamond.

I am catching all of this natural light today and am beaming just as bright on the inside.

I woke up this morning in love with myself. I felt rested, energized and excited about my life.

I even said, “you are looking mighty good as well”, and chuckled to myself.

Never had I imagined my physical health being a part of my self care and self love routines.

I have always taken my body for granted and to be honest, I have been disconnected from my body for many years.

Disconnected because I was holding on to being pissed off about breast cancer and not accepting the scars it left behind.

Disconnected because  I was pissed my body was attacked by this ravenous disease and I had to go through the invasive process of treatment.

Disconnected because I decided that I didn’t like my new body and I could hide behind frumpy clothing.

I tried to pretend for many years that I was okay...

Stop worrying about what other people think and what other people have to say about you and your situation.

It's really none of your business. 

I can't say it enough.

Too often we get caught up in what people are thinking, what they are saying, how they may be feeling, and it really has nothing to do with us.

Let people be people and you focus on what you have control over. 

When you get in your head, running down rabbit holes, chasing all of the reasons why someone said what they said or might say to you, you will find that you are missing out.

You are missing out on opportunities to grow. 

Think about it.

When you are worried about how people are going to respond to you, you are not focused on your business. You are focused on them, consumed with self-doubt and fear. 

You can never forget how uniquely amazing you are. 

When you stand firmly behind your vision - by any means necessary, you will show up consistently, produce your content, and have the...