How to pull yourself up when feeling down.

My friend scooped me up in her sporty Infinity, excited to see me and ready to have a fun weekend.

I wanted to feel better, and hoped her presence would save me from the gloom of anxiety.

As we sat in traffic I noticed my shallow breath and said, “I can’t stop shaking. Like the vibration from the deep bass of blasting speakers, my insides trembled.

It was hard to find the words to describe my feelings. In turn, I shared a story.

I was about 9 years old. On this day, she was different. Something inside was broken. I could see her shame as I could see her helplessness and hopelessness through her tears as she winced in pain.

Stevie Wonder played in the background. As if the record were scratched, it’s etched in my mind. One song. It played repeatedly. Or maybe I sang it repeatedly to ground myself. … “Lately”.

I see him, I see them, I see the stand off. Knowing exactly what was going to happen. I watched,...

Yes can change you and your situation. 

I said yes to myself and my life has changed drastically.

I am living a life beyond my wildest dreams.

I have made a decision to live my truth.

No longer doing anything because I have to, only doing what I want to do.

Only doing things that are aligned with my spirit.

I said yes to myself.

As a result of this, I am shedding. Shedding cells, shedding tears, shedding relationships, shedding unhealthy behaviors, shedding emotions, shedding my old way of being.

There are moments when I feel as if I cannot breathe. The tears continue to flow and there is so much pain. OH how a glass of wine, sitting outside in the sun would make this feeling go away.

“Bullshit” says my spirit. “This pain is not going to kill you. Experience this pain, respect this pain, listen to it. Your pain wants to be released. It wants to move, It wants to flow. So just let it be”.

The tears are flowing. They represent so much. They represent not...

Feeling Stressed? Seeking Relief? 

Here’s Everything You Really Need To Know About Stress. 

For many individuals, stress is an ever-present reality. The rapid, often chaotic pace of life that characterizes this lifestyle can be overwhelming. 

While constantly on the run in reactionary mode, we can find ourselves easily triggered, leading to a state of anxiety and unease.

(Watch my latest Youtube video showing you a natural way to relieve stress.)

So here’s what you know.

Over time, if not moderated, consistently high levels of stress can have a destructive impact on both our physical and mental health. In fact, a recent Gallup study, 79 percent of Americans polled say they experience stress with some degree of frequency throughout the day. 

The American Psychological Association in a 2017 report cited the most common forms of stress for those surveyed: 

 63% Future of our nation

62% Money

61% Work

57% Political climate

51% Violence

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Hey Sis,

The word NO becomes your saving grace when you decide that it is no longer acceptable to please every body. 

When you start saying NO, the people depending on you and asking you for stuff will figure it out.

Yes, you love your people and care about their well-being.

Yes, you want to please them and feel accepted.

Yes, its uncomfortable dwelling in the discomfort of their disappointment in you.

Yes, its an adjustment for you to step away from what you have always done.

Well guess what?

Your loved ones - are getting exactly what they want and need because you are the one scrambling to keep it all together for them.

How is this working out for you?

Who is looking out for your well being?

Who is up at night worried about how you are doing or how you feel?

It is no longer acceptable for you to be walking around talking about you are tired.

It is no longer acceptable for you to be breaking out in strange rashes because you are stressed the hell out.

It is no longer...

The Happily Obsessed Podcast is a passion project for me. My mission is to empower fiercely ambitious creatives, innovators and entrepreneurs ready to take a stand for their self-care.

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The Happily Obsessed Podcast will bring you thoughtful and motivating information that will transform your mental health, mindset and spiritual practices so you can start living your best life now.

This show features in depth conversations with soulful entrepreneurs who share  intimate glimpses of their lives and work.

Desi Wenzel is your host- Entrepreneur, Transformational Coach and Author of The Fearless Action Guide.

The introduction episode shares my vision for this podcast and a little about me.

My mission is to help fiercely ambitious women express compassion, care, and concern for themselves as they build their businesses.

I believe women can fully live an abundant and inspired life while on the path to success.

When us women are...

Self Love Means Celebrating YOU!

“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.”

Eartha Kitt

Low self-esteem is common among women. It’s where we lack the will and desire to celebrate ourselves.

I have a few questions for you. Ready?

Do you compare yourself to others, leading to feelings of inadequacy?

Ever had the experience of accomplishing something amazing only to focus on all the things you did wrong?

Or spend months on a project, pouring your heart and soul into it only to be too embarrassed to let anyone see it?

All of these can be huge hurdles to overcome, even if you are a person who’s inherently motivated, talented and ambitious.

Soooo, are you ready to shift out of these patterns? Then let’s start with something basic. It embodies two simple words:

Celebrate Yourself!

The next time you...

How many things are you not doing because you are afraid of being an imperfect human?

If you are afraid of failing, then you are still worried about what the next person feels, thinks or have to say about you.

Yes, failing is uncomfortable
Yes, failing can wound your fragile ego. 

Well guess what, your ego needs to be wounded anyways, as a matter of fact, just throw the entire ego away! It is not serving you.

Your spirit is naturally guiding
Your spirit is softly whispering to you
Your spirit is nudging you to stay in motion

And when you doubt your ego
You allow fear to dictate how to live your life
You allow ego to question your truth 
You allow ego to cause confusion in your life
You allow ego to create scenarios about your situation that hasn’t happened yet

Every single time you:
hesitate
question or 
doubt
what it is you know you are suppose to be doing, you are being led by your EGO.

Every single time you take a step based on that deep inner knowing, you are moving in your...

If boundaries were so easy we would set the limit and be done, right?

Well, it isn’t always easy to set boundaries because there is an element of discomfort that exist that isn't willfully discussed. 

Setting boundaries become easier when you have a few tools to help you through the process. 

Truth be told, many people question their decisions before or after setting the boundary which makes them ambivalent about their decision.

You know how it goes.

You have a situation or engaged with a person that is sucking your energy and getting on your nerves and yet, setting firm boundaries is difficult. 

Well, to shed some light on this, it's human nature to be ambivalent and to even grieve situations before we let go.

So, to prevent this, here are a few questions to ask yourself to get your mind right.

Question 1: “How is my continued helping in the way of me accomplishing important personal or family goals?”

Question 2: “How is my helping or giving...

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