The Happily Obsessed Podcast is a passion project for me. My mission is to empower fiercely ambitious creatives, innovators and entrepreneurs ready to take a stand for their self-care.

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The Happily Obsessed Podcast will bring you thoughtful and motivating information that will transform your mental health, mindset and spiritual practices so you can start living your best life now.

This show features in depth conversations with soulful entrepreneurs who share  intimate glimpses of their lives and work.

Desi Wenzel is your host- Entrepreneur, Transformational Coach and Author of The Fearless Action Guide.

The introduction episode shares my vision for this podcast and a little about me.

My mission is to help fiercely ambitious women express compassion, care, and concern for themselves as they build their businesses.

I believe women can fully live an abundant and inspired life while on the path to success.

When us women are...

When the numbers don't matter.

My facebook group has been a major source of aggravation for me. So I decided to stop complaining and have done something about it. I had to decide that the numbers do not matter when I want and active and engaged community. 

I combed through my group and found that there are a lot of fake accounts and/or people l that are not active on facebook. I removed all of these people - Well over 150.

I know there was a reason why these folks wanted to be apart of group initially. I am sure they saw an ad, or experienced one of my post and decided they needed to be apart of the action.

When the member is no longer emotional, they will go away. And this is okay. This puts the responsibility on me to better manage my groups. 

I have been thinking a lot about creating an engaged community and I realize it first starts with me.

It’s no longer acceptable for me to spend my precious time curating resources for Lookie Lou’s, Freeple’s, and...

Instagram is Changing The Game

Have you heard the news that Instagram is going to remove likes? Yep. In fact, as we speak it is currently being tested in Canada.  

“To like or not to like,” as Shakespeare once said.

Actually, Shakespeare never said that.

But I certainly have a thought. So here goes:

I support this change one-hundred percent given the countless studies showing Instagram users having major struggles with anxiety, depression, loneliness, sleep quality and negative impact on body image.

Instagram’s biggest reason for wanting to remove likes from public posts is tied to all of the recent media attention around people using them as an evaluation of themselves in terms of self-esteem and acceptance.

To put it bluntly, these behaviors are making people depressed because of the tendency of people to compare themselves to an idealized or aspiration lifestyle that may or may not be real.

This, in my opinion, is a big deal

It’s a decision,...

What's Going On? Sista's We've Got To Do Better

Oh, what's going on

What's going on

Yeah, what's going on

Ah, what's going on

Marvin Gaye

Having sat down with my plate of barbeque ribs, I say  “what’s up my people?” to those seated at the table

Then I heard a voice respond: “I am NOT YOUR PEOPLE because you are white.”

Ohhhh! Really? Okay!!??

Within a blink of an eye, I played out a reaction in my mind.  It all seemed like it was in slow motion.

I gasped.  “WTF?”

I pulled back from the table, my body language saying, “WTF” is wrong with her.”

“Hmm,” I thought. “This is interesting.”  Truth be told, she had been looking at me funny all day. “She’s going through something,” I thought. “But F*** that. I still should just let her have it.”

The thoughts continued: “If I engage this heifer, the fun night will be over because...

Self Love Means Celebrating YOU!

“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.”

Eartha Kitt

Low self-esteem is common among women. It’s where we lack the will and desire to celebrate ourselves.

I have a few questions for you. Ready?

Do you compare yourself to others, leading to feelings of inadequacy?

Ever had the experience of accomplishing something amazing only to focus on all the things you did wrong?

Or spend months on a project, pouring your heart and soul into it only to be too embarrassed to let anyone see it?

All of these can be huge hurdles to overcome, even if you are a person who’s inherently motivated, talented and ambitious.

Soooo, are you ready to shift out of these patterns? Then let’s start with something basic. It embodies two simple words:

Celebrate Yourself!

The next time you...

How many things are you not doing because you are afraid of being an imperfect human?

If you are afraid of failing, then you are still worried about what the next person feels, thinks or have to say about you.

Yes, failing is uncomfortable
Yes, failing can wound your fragile ego. 

Well guess what, your ego needs to be wounded anyways, as a matter of fact, just throw the entire ego away! It is not serving you.

Your spirit is naturally guiding
Your spirit is softly whispering to you
Your spirit is nudging you to stay in motion

And when you doubt your ego
You allow fear to dictate how to live your life
You allow ego to question your truth 
You allow ego to cause confusion in your life
You allow ego to create scenarios about your situation that hasn’t happened yet

Every single time you:
hesitate
question or 
doubt
what it is you know you are suppose to be doing, you are being led by your EGO.

Every single time you take a step based on that deep inner knowing, you are moving in your...

If boundaries were so easy we would set the limit and be done, right?

Well, it isn’t always easy to set boundaries because there is an element of discomfort that exist that isn't willfully discussed. 

Setting boundaries become easier when you have a few tools to help you through the process. 

Truth be told, many people question their decisions before or after setting the boundary which makes them ambivalent about their decision.

You know how it goes.

You have a situation or engaged with a person that is sucking your energy and getting on your nerves and yet, setting firm boundaries is difficult. 

Well, to shed some light on this, it's human nature to be ambivalent and to even grieve situations before we let go.

So, to prevent this, here are a few questions to ask yourself to get your mind right.

Question 1: “How is my continued helping in the way of me accomplishing important personal or family goals?”

Question 2: “How is my helping or giving...

Let this be the line drawn in the sand, beyond which your life will never be the same.

Self Care in Action Retreats are transformative and an immersive week long experience, hosted a couple times per year.

At each Self Care In Action Retreat, a group of power women come together with the intention of diving deeply into themselves, connect to each other, and blast limiting beliefs, so they can live in their fullest potential and better serve the world.

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